Solutions to Abortion

"An ounce of prevention is better than two pounds of cure." - our Grandmothers

There are multiple safeguards we can put in place against a death culture - what we teach our children at home and in school, our family, what is taught from the pulpit, our laws, and the choices we make. More than half of live births are not "planned", and most abortions are performed on women who were using contraception the month they got pregnant.* When pregnancies do occur, there is help available for pregnant mothers including pregnancy care centers, modern adoption agencies, and loving churches. When killing children is no longer an option, women will look for other options and the paradigm will begin to shift.

Overcoming Myths

We live in a culture that confuses love with lust and replaces the word "sex" with "love" as if they are the same thing. "Love whoever you want" translates, "have sex with whoever you want". Worse still, school children as young as preschool are being exposed in Colorado public schools to porn, sexual grooming, and sexual abuse.

It is estimated that one in four Americans has a sexual addiction.* To them, suggesting that they not have sex seems like an unrealistic expectation. To further the addiction, businesses that profit from terminating pregnancies are invited into schools to encourage sexual experimentation and contraceptives that give a false sense of invincibility while exposing youth to potentially devastating sexually transmitted infections, unhealthy relationships, and the possibility of pregnancy. Colleges teach sexual expression as a need, rather than a want or desire.

Based on the failure rates of condoms and other forms of birth control, for every one hundred students encouraged to engage in sexual activity, a minimum of four to eight of those young ladies will become pregnant within the year.* While students are taught fifty-six imaginative gender combinations, deviations in performing sex, and same-sex and transgender expressions of sex, the reality is that God made women to desire men and once sexual appetite is awakened, men and women still fit together to produce babies.

Every “contraceptive” has a failure rate, along with severe consequences to consider, including potential stroke, migraines, and mental health considerations. The “pill” prescribed for everything from acne to heavy periods to contraception is itself a potential abortifacient as it does not always prevent ovulation but does prevent implantation of a newly developing son or daughter. These hormones change a woman's chemistry, affect her moods, metabolism, and some studies show her judgment in men on a biological level.* Like "the pill", patches and injections alter a woman's natural biology with artificial hormones that fool the woman's body into acting like she is already pregnant. To prevent pregnancy, women take hormones to feel like she's pregnant all the time. Research has not been published on the link between long term use of synthetic hormones and infertility. The IUD is dangerous on multiple levels, and when a pregnancy does occur, to remove the IUD also removes the child. Most life-affirming OB/Gyns no longer insert IUDs. IUD’s and synthetic hormones make the womb inhospitable for carrying life.

To prevent the creation of people made in the image of God, children are now being castrated and mutilated so that by the time they become adults and want children of their own, they will not be able to have their own children, all in the name of "gender affirming care" which does not care to affirm their actual gender. Every cell in our body is either male or female. Before we are born, women have all the ovum she will produce, and men's brains have been washed with testosterone. You cannot change someone's gender by putting on a dress or taking off their skin to put somewhere else to look like something it is not. The fact that women have to become more masculine to attract women and men more feminine to attract men should tell us something. God does not make mistakes. He does not put the soul of one gender into the body of another.

Our most significant contribution and heritage and potential joy as mortals - our children - are prevented before they can be conceived, taken away from the safety of the womb before they can be born, castrated before they can have children of their own (our grandchildren), and taught to harm their bodies and emotions through sexual exploration with those not committed to love them. God ordained praise from children. (Psalm 8:2) Is it no wonder the enemy of our souls works so hard to destroy them?

Choice of Sexual Partner

The ultimate maturity of an adult is love, where the needs of others are considered with one's own needs. Manipulating someone else's body for one's temporary pleasure is not love. Making sure the needs of another person are met in all areas of relationship through marriage - as commemorated through the physical act of a marriage ceremony - keeps sexuality sacred and honored between two people that no one else can share. That first experience of sexual expression is meant to be sweet and to grow through the years, along with the bond between two people together for a lifetime. The process of a child forming from each of them brings the symbolic gesture of the two becoming one flesh* into the reality of each of them being a part of a new living human being.

Reserving sexuality for marriage keeps sexually transmitted infections out of the relationship. It also provides the committed and consistent environment needed by children and the emotional stability and connectedness desired by women. A two-parent family also prevents poverty. Young adults who finish school, get a full-time job, and wait to be sexually active until marriage (in that order) have the best prescription for staying out of poverty.* Keeping sexuality pure between a man and woman in marriage doesn't make money for pharmaceuticals, mental health professionals, or abortionists. Reserving sexuality for marriage is also preventative of partner violence and child abuse.*

Couples who get pregnant may find the timing inconvenient, but most women who have a supportive man in their life are not thrown into a state of crisis to feel compelled to kill the child. If a pregnant mother has one man in her life who supports her and the pregnancy, she is most likely to carry. When a husband is committed to his wife, the couple are better able to handle pregnancy financially, physically, and emotionally. The primary solution to abortion is a choice of the will for women and men to wait to be sexually active until they are in a committed monogamous relationship – marriage.

Within marriage, there are scientific ways a husband and wife can understand her body to be able to encourage or discourage pregnancy that is equally effective to artificial hormones.* Working with a woman's body in a natural way, rather than working against her body, provides closeness between husband and wife, so that when a woman does become pregnant, it is a shared experience between both parents.

The next hurdle for parents is to find a life-affirming doctor who doesn't push prolonged ultrasounds, prenatal testing, or prenatal vaccines that can potentially harm the child.* Too many doctors treat abortion as an easy way out of potential complications. Abortion ends a pregnancy by killing the child. The grief and pain to parents of being pressured by doctors to abort a child is lifelong. Many parents choose to carry their child to birth and love their child regardless their potential handicap or poor prognosis. Many of these children are born perfectly healthy. The unnecessary stress doctors may put on a mother at a time when stress is not good for her child, or for her pregnancy, causes some parents to limit testing and shop carefully for a life-affirming doctor who will value the life of their child.

Education

To combat the sexual addiction epidemic, we must return common sense to the classroom and to the home. While “abstinence” has been outlawed to be taught in Colorado public schools as the only or best means of preventing pregnancy, abstaining from activities that can naturally lead to pregnancy is in fact, the best and only way to prevent pregnancy. Waiting to become sexually active can also reduce anxiety and depression in teenagers and increase their cognitive and emotional growth.*

Everything we teach in school we expect students to practice. Encouraging sexual experimentation harms youth in their cognitive, emotional, physical, financial, social, and spiritual growth. The earlier an adolescent becomes sexually active, the earlier their growth is stunted, as attention is taken from other areas in need of maturation.* As believers, we know it harms their soul. In all the ways of a human's growth - emotional, intellectual, physical, social, spiritual, and financial - we must also teach choices of the will. We are not animals enslaved to our passions and lusts. Unlike animals, our hormones and instincts do not control us. We also do not "follow our heart", as Scripture says, "The heart is deceitful above all things..." (Jeremiah 17:9)

As human beings, we are separate from plants and animals. Those who read the ancient Scriptures know that we did not magically evolve from slime. We are not like the animals but were given responsibility to care for them. We can reason. We can appreciate beauty. We can establish institutions of education, law, churches, and families. We can discover scientific and spiritual realities, contemplate history, calculate math, communicate in complex forms, learn multiple languages, and create. We can plan for the future and make decisions based on priorities, opinions, and facts. We can accumulate knowledge, read, and appreciate and explore the universe of billions of galaxies and the complexities of a single cell and organized systems at a molecular level. We can create a symphony and manufacture the instruments and read the music to perform it. We can create wealth and manage it. We can have a personal relationship with our Creator through Jesus Christ who put on flesh as one of us. We can live out abstract concepts of love, hope, honor, respect, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, perseverance, and self-control. We can be intentional about the decisions we make with the consequences we may incur. We can train our children in character traits of honesty, morality, integrity, hard work, and delayed gratification that will make them successful in relationships and in life.

Every school child needs to be taught that every action has a consequence. That self-discipline is critical to becoming an adult and developed through practice. And that mature adults don't have sex until we're ready to have babies.

Because God's solution is the best one, after all, to reserve sexuality for marriage (fornication is the act of sexuality outside marriage), all children deserve to know the truth to have an opportunity to choose the best for themselves and their future families, even those trapped in the secular religion of public school.

When children are given a buffet of dessert, they will make themselves sick. As adults, we guide them to eat their vegetables, first. When school children are shown all the many ways of having sex without the context of family, relationship, morality, self-discipline, or love, it will make them sick. As adults, we need to introduce them to the foundations of healthy relationships and self-discipline, first.

Sexuality is easy to discover; friendship and character take work. The hard work of character development and relationship building put together the ingredients needed over time for successful relationships and life. Once the ingredients and time have been put forward for the foundation of the wedding cake, the frosting on the cake is easy. Good relationships and people don't just happen without training and practice. Teaching sex to youth in a classroom may be titillating and an inappropriate venue for youth.

Just as a fire in a fireplace is warm and cozy, but fire escaping into the living room to burn up the sofa creates a crisis, sex beneath the hearth of marriage is safe and warm, but sex outside that hearth is a threat to all engulfed by the lust of its flames. We need to teach youth the difference, and want the best for all youth, not just our own.

Family​

Within the loving relationships of family, children are able to learn as they are emotionally, cognitively, and physically ready and in need of understanding sexuality within the context of love and relationship. Who better to teach their children about the sacredness of marriage and sexuality than the parents who experienced that relationship in conceiving them. In the owners manual God provided us called the Bible, God tells us his design for sexuality and creating children. God designed children to be conceived in love, carried in love, raised in love, and launched in love. Because we live in a fallen world of sinful people, even with the best intentions, that progression can fall short anywhere along the way. When it does, family is the safety net for children - and adults. It is the commitment and compassion of family - or members of one's extended family - that can prevent a lot of poor choices and help pick up the pieces afterward.

Even where marriage is not the context for the creation of the child, the next layer of protection God has put in place is the family - grandparents, sisters, cousins, aunts and uncles. God put in place multiple layers to protect a child - mothers, fathers, family, older women, other men, the church, communities, and the law. The enemy of the lives God is creating had to get through all those layers to prey upon the most vulnerable among us. When we put back into place the missing layers of a mother's love, a father's protection, a family's support, a church's instruction, a community's celebration, and the moral code of law, these children have a wall of protection around them so thick that no one can violate that sanctuary.

Pregnancy Care Centers

For pregnant mothers struggling with overwhelming challenges while pregnant, Pregnancy Care Centers offer no-cost resources for her. Most pregnancy centers offer diapers, clothes, baby items, and parenting classes. Most importantly, pregnancy care centers provide one-on-one emotional support and someone to walk alongside a pregnant mother as long as needed so she doesn’t feel alone.

Pregnancy centers offer honest information about the development of her baby and the various parenting options available to her including single parenting, co-parenting, marriage and parenting, parenting with help, and the loving option of choosing parents and placing her baby in a loving home through modern adoption. 

If a mother is considering terminating her pregnancy, a caring and trained life professional will ask permission to share with her the risks and procedures of aborting her child, information that abortion clinics will not tell her.

Under the license of a medical doctor, many pregnancy centers offer free ultrasound, confirmation of pregnancy, and prenatal vitamins. Some pregnancy centers offer STI testing and treatment.

Most pregnancy centers offer mentorship opportunities and classes for both father and mother.

Unlike abortion clinics, pregnancy care centers do not make money off what the woman chooses. In fact, it costs pregnancy centers when mothers need help to continue their pregnancies. Through private donations and grants, many people make sacrifices to help the mothers and children served.

Many pregnancy centers also offer pregnancy loss support groups for those grieving the loss of a child through the choice to abort.

Pregnancy centers help pregnant mothers get back on their feet financially, emotionally, and spiritually. Pregnancy centers make referrals to other community resources based on the woman’s individual needs such as help with budgeting, work readiness, school scholarships, housing, transportation, and even a local church community that may offer her a baby shower and continued support for her and her children.

A pregnancy center provides a free and confidential environment where a pregnant mother can talk through her fears and anxieties about being a mother and work through a plan for achieving her goals. A pregnancy center staff member or volunteer is trained to help a woman out of crisis and think through her options even before taking a pregnancy test so that she can make a well-informed decision out of vision for her future and love for her baby.

Modern Adoption

Through Modern Adoption, the infant can go directly from a biological mother into an adoptive family of the mother's choice without affecting the foster care system at no cost to the pregnant mother.

A mother who is unable or unwilling to care for her child may choose loving parents for her child, choose how involved she'd like to be in her child's life, what she'd like her birthing experience to be like, and if she'd like to dedicate or baptize her child and have an adoption ceremony.

Through Modern Adoption agencies, the biological mother may choose if she would like open, closed, or partially open adoption. She can interview perspective parents and choose which parents she would like to raise her baby. She can choose how involved she'd like to be - if she'd like to be at every birthday party or receive a picture every year.

Adoption is free for bio mom, and agencies can help with any expenses related to her pregnancy including rent, clothing, and utilities. Many adoption agencies also offer her professional counseling at no-charge and provide a case worker to provide emotional support throughout pregnancy.

The child goes directly from the arms of their biological mother into the arms of adoptive parents who have been heavily screened and who are paying tens of thousands of dollars to be able to adopt. Many adoptive families become an extended family for the mother.

The mother may also choose to place her child directly with a family member or other family of her choice without going through an adoption agency. She may try to parent and if she's struggling, as long as social services does not become involved, she may choose adoption for her child at any time.

There are currently 36 couples wanting to adopt a baby for every baby available to adopt in the U.S. We have a shortage of babies. There have been approximately the same number of couples wanting to adopt every year as there have been abortions performed.

Approximately two million couples are currently waiting to adopt a baby. This number does not include the families where the cost is prohibitive for them. Many of these families would like to adopt more than one child, if they could.

Modern adoption solves both the abortion issue and the epidemic of infertility caused by abortion, abortifacients, and hormones in our environment without the immoral and inhumane practices of destroying children through IVF.

Churches

Adults are most open to the gospel when in crisis. Becoming pregnant outside marriage, at an inopportune time, or when other crises are happening simultaneously is a perfect opportunity for someone who doesn’t know Christ - or hasn't had a serious walk with Him - to cry out to Him for help. It is in those moments that many women (and men) find a relationship with Christ that will carry them through not only a nine-month pregnancy but a lifetime of love and relationships.

Pregnant mothers who have a church that rallies around them do much better spiritually, emotionally, and financially than women trying to make it without a loving church family.

Many of us have been exposed to "The Scarlet Letter" mentality imposed by those outside the church, preventing even the thought of church as a safe haven and place of help. There are many denominations of churches in a community with different worship styles and different personalities. Even though made up of imperfect people, a church that shares the gospel, teaches Scripture, and loves people can be a wonderful extended family.

Taught that to disagree with their lifestyle means that you hate them, young adults may not understand that trying to help them out of unhealthy and sinful behaviors that are harming them means they truly are loved. They don't know what love is. They find it hard to believe that anyone wants what is best for them. By demonstrating an attitude of true compassion and vulnerability, humility and genuineness, the words become more than a clanging in their ears. 

Churches have the opportunity to warn churchgoers away from the temptation of abortion and remind those who have succumb to that temptation of the grace and healing found in Jesus Christ through His death and resurrection for the sins of the world, applied to all who believe and accept that forgiveness. Without that reminder, many women feel like taking away the life of their child is an unforgiveable sin and they miss the gospel. This is a way the church is relevant to our culture in speaking on what is affecting your congregation.

Most women were attending church before they had a first abortion. More than half of all abortions are acquired by church women. This doesn't mean we don't talk about it; it means that we do need to talk about it. Not accept it as normal, but address it so that women don't continue to fall into that trap.

Churches have the opportunity to minister to young single and pregnant mothers. Women and children can observe healthy family dynamics and Godly men in a group setting to recalibrate their own expectations in relationships. Church fellowship provides a family for those who do not have families, ministering to the widows and orphans of our day – those rejected and left uncared for by men in their lives.

Church outreach may include servicing cars, fixing plumbing, or providing after school care or affordable Christian school for struggling single parents. The church can be a safe place for singles to meet each other as they worship and serve God together and get to know other singles. What singles and single parents learn while attending church will affect their families in the future.  

When from the pulpit the whole counsel of God is taught, women and men have weapons to resist the temptation of abortion. From "thou shalt not kill" to "cast all your anxieties upon Him, because He cares for you" to "with every temptation, God promises a way out," Scripture is a fountain of wisdom and direction when applied to our lives. Jesus said that obedience to His Word puts our lives on a firm foundation that can withstand any storm. Having a sense of hope in Christ for the future, faith that God gives good gifts and has good plans for us, and love from others and for others are a great shield against a death culture enticing pregnant mothers to give up their children to idolatry.

The Law

The final safeguard for our children and our society is the law. Law is a teacher. (Galatians 3:24) The purpose of government and law is expressed throughout Scripture.

We realize that law is not enacted for the righteous, but for the lawless and rebellious, for the ungodly and sinful, for the unholy and profane, for killers of father or mother, for murderers, for the sexually immoral, for homosexuals, for slave traders and liars and perjurers, and for anyone else who is averse to sound teaching ... (1 Timothy 1)

The goal of our instruction is the love that comes from a pure heart, a clear conscience, and a sincere faith. Some have strayed from these ways and turned aside to empty talk. (1 Timothy 1)

By definition, law is a moral code of expected behaviors. Yes, you can legislate morality. That's what law is. You cannot make someone obey the law, but you can put just and fair laws in place that you expect people to obey. Law teaches what is right from wrong. Law deters unwanted behaviors by providing unwanted consequences. And for those who refuse to be taught or deterred, law provides justice for those victimized from those breaking the law.

Most civilizations have laws against murder. We also have laws against theft and lying under oath. We have laws against running stop lights and going over the speed limit that could hurt people physically. We used to have laws preventing adultery and sodomy that can hurt people physically and at a deep emotional and relational level. Until fifty years ago, we had laws against killing children before they could be born.

God provided the perfect law as a standard. Our nation was founded upon those laws. For more than two hundred years our laws agreed with God's laws. It took a Civil War and civil protestors breaking lesser laws to finally enforce the higher law of "all men are Created equal".

Since humans are not evolving, but rather our DNA is deteriorating with every generation, our grandparents and elders before us were much more intelligent than we are. We may have more years in the classroom and know more about computers, but that doesn't mean we are biologically more intelligent. We could learn from our elders. We can learn from incredible documents such as The Declaration of Independence and The Constitution of the United States written by well-educated men who feared God and understood the depravity of men (and women). Even the Colorado Constitution which reads:

We, the people of Colorado, with profound reverence for the Supreme Ruler of the Universe, in order to form a more independent and perfect government; establish justice; insure tranquility; provide for the common defense; promote the general welfare and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity, do ordain and establish this constitution for the "State of Colorado". [emphasis added] - Colorado Constitution

Sometimes it helps to go back to the roots of why we have laws to understand why we need to create better laws. Right now, the Colorado legislature is rebelling against the Supreme Ruler of the Universe. They are enacting laws that are immoral and unjust. They are refusing protection of our most vulnerable children. They cannot agree to basic common decency against rape of children, butcher shops luring women for profit, or profane curriculum that qualifies as sexual abuse of children in the public classroom, Of all the proof we have that elections are computer-generated as they are in communist countries, their lack of respect and representation of the voter is perhaps the biggest. They have no fear of God nor man and they are catapulting Colorado toward destruction of our families, our income, and our children who are our future.

Whether it is the legislature or "We The People" who finally care enough to change the oppressive laws under which we live and are willing to sacrifice temporary comforts for the future of our families and the lives of children, when we finally put into place legal protections for our children from the predatory sex addicts and abortionists, and replace the debase leaders in education, media, and the government with people of moral character and principles worth guiding us, we will have achieved a worthwhile goal for humanity and the future worthy of our time, attention, and treasure.

Paradigm Shift

The majority of the population has lived only after abortion became legal. Previous generations welcomed children as gifts to their families. While not everyone lived morally, not wanting to become pregnant without a marriage partner was a pretty good deterrent. Women helped set the standard for morality, requiring men to treat women as gentlemen, and proposing marriage if they intended to become physically involved. Older men also held younger men accountable.

Seemingly simplistic or naive, the rules "thou shalt not murder" and "do not commit adultery" are still the ultimate standards by God to help humanity avoid the pitfalls of misplaced compassion and unbridled lust. 

The solutions to abortion are many and varied. When we take killing children off the table as an option, the other options are more readily sought and more easily found.

*For more statistical information, visit Educational Resources / Colorado Life Initiative

or Get the Facts - Lozier Institute.

"Do not arouse or awaken love until the time is right." (Song of Solomon 2:7b)

"Love does no wrong to its neighbor." (Romans 13)

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs. Love takes no pleasure in evil, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails." (1 Corinthians 13)

"Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who submit to or perform homosexual acts, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor verbal abusers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God." (1 Corinthians 6)

"Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a man can commit is outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God with your body." (1 Corinthians 6)

​No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." (Romans 8:28)

Faye Barnhart is a Life Affirming Specialist and Co-Founder of the Colorado Life Initiative. She was a women’s advocate for 19 years, served four pregnancy care centers in two states, including CEO of the largest pregnancy care center geographically in the United States, and served in a federal think tank on the co-occurrence of adult and child violence. A prelaw student who interned at the state Capitol and in media, she graduated with honors and pursued master's work in Organizational Leadership and a career in Communications for international ministries. She began in the prolife cause in the 1980’s, raised her children as a single parent, and is now married with an adopted special needs son and enjoys each of her grandchildren, including a grandbaby who needed life-saving surgery at birth. She accepted Christ as her personal Savior and Lord as a small child and continues her walk with the Lord in daily dependence.