What Every Woman Needs to Know, but Does She?

We have endured 50 years of a false narrative. At some point, the common thread will pull and the web of lies will come unraveled. It’s a thread that begins in unbridled sexual experimentation, in the belief that we can engage in actions without reaping the consequences. While God says He won’t be mocked, we will reap what we sow.

If having a child will create a crisis, don’t engage in activity that could lead to the creation of a child. Don’t act like you’re married if you’re not. God created marriage for one man and one woman to share in what no one else in the world is a part of to express their love for one another.

You don’t wait until you love someone to have sex, you wait until you’re married. This is a very concrete symbol of commitment and love and the best kind of relationship to bring in other members of the family. God intended that the two would become one, symbolized by two half-cells becoming one cell that is a new living human being, just as this couple shares a new life together.

The way you know if someone loves you enough to give yourself to them is if they are selfless enough to wait until you are married. Within marriage, making love is a selfless act. Outside of marriage, having sex is selfish and not considering the needs of the other person.

Most abortions are performed on pregnant mothers who were using some form of contraception or birth control when they got pregnant. The more people who are on birth control, the more abortions for the abortionist.

We have the most access to contraceptives of any generation, and the highest abortion rates. Of every 100 young ladies given contraception, at least four of those ladies will become pregnant within the year, and it’s not because they didn’t use it right. If it’s that important not to get pregnant, don’t engage in those activities.

Unlike what is taught in most classrooms, sex is not a need. Let’s say it again. Sexual expression and experimentation is not a need. For a young lady who has never been exposed, it may not even be an awakened desire, yet. Students need to focus on developing themselves intellectually and emotionally before engaging in adult activity. Once sex happens, the rest of healthy development is stunted. And healthy development of that relationship stops. Because the focus becomes sexual. We typically teach in the classroom what we want students to practice.

Sex is not love. Love and sex are often confused but are not the same thing. “Love whoever you want,” is a great statement if it were not a euphemism for sex.  We don’t have sex with everyone we love. We shouldn’t have sex with most people we love – parents, siblings, cousins, uncles, grandparents, neighbors, friends, co-workers, fellow classmates, teachers, coaches, ….

Love is a subjective, abstract concept, like goodness, mercy, forgiveness, hope, and joy. Until fully adult, children are typically not abstract thinkers, but rather concrete. Which is why a wedding ceremony is a very concrete concept for them to know when it is the right time to have sex.

One should not enter marriage until one is ready for children. Having a child within the first year or two of marriage is a sign of reproductive health. It’s natural. It doesn’t require drugs to prevent pregnancy, promote pregnancy, end pregnancy, treat infections or diseases, ... which means living rightly cuts out the profit of pharmaceuticals, the medical establishment, and the mental health profession while keeping money in your own pocket.

Doctors don’t know the consequences of young ladies being on birth control pills for years, though they prescribe hormones for everything from a woman's reproductive cycle to acne. A study needs to be done, if it hasn’t already, on the correlation between long term use of chemical birth control and later infertility.

We do know that abortion pills can cause later infertility. There are articles about the effects of these chemicals, and birth control hormones, in water affecting fertility and men's masculinity, which may explain a lot.

There are a lot of benefits to right living. God set out clearly how we can have the best kind of life. Following his principles provides natural benefits, whether it is in the area of finances, relationships, or sex.

The worry, fear, and secrecy are no more when sex is within the boundaries of marriage. Marriage contains sex like a fireplace contains a fire in a peaceful, warm setting of hearth and home where it is safe for children. If that fire leaves the fireplace, rather than peaceful, it becomes a crisis burning up the home.

It is in this state of crisis where most abortions are performed. While some married women have abortions, eight out of ten abortions are performed on single women. To them, their lives are on fire.

No one makes good decisions in crisis when we feel like we are just trying to survive. The pregnancy puts a magnifying glass on everything that is wrong in her life – relationships, finances, her spiritual walk, her addictions, sometimes her health. Once out of crisis, where her fears and needs are met, it’s a great time to reevaluate her life and make plans for the future. She has almost nine months to prepare for being a mother.

The abortion industry makes money off crisis. In fact, they will help fuel the flame of crisis. They will give her contraceptives so she has a false sense of security to engage in more sexual activity, creating a greater chance of becoming pregnant. They will capitalize on this not being a good time for her to have a baby, which if we’re honest, accounts for most babies (more than half of babies born are not "planned", and that any babies can actually be "planned" is purely speculative).

The receptionist for the abortionist will lie. They won't tell her it will be painful for her and her child, or tragic. And they won’t tell her that she will deliver her little dead son or daughter with a little face that looks like hers. Calling contractions “cramps” and a child “tissue”, there is no choice involved for what the mother is about to go through.

Sexual expression outside marriage traps women. It traps them in unhealthy relationships, in worry, and often in abuse. It binds her emotionally and spiritually to someone who isn't committed to her, someone who doesn’t care about her enough to protect her and put her interests above his own to wait until marriage for her. He may tell her he loves her and is there for her, but without marriage, he isn't committed to being there for her when the going gets tough.   

It is in this environment that the abortion industry thrives. The abortion industry thrives and supports illegal activities of prostitution, sex trafficking, and sexual abuse of minors. Without abortion, rapists would be caught. If a man thinks that he will pay child support on every child he creates, he might think again about creating them. Likewise, if a woman knows if she gets pregnant, she will have a child, she will also think again about who and when she is having sex.

The 1973 decision of Roe v Wade was right on the heals of the free sex movement correlating with the usage of drugs that altered the minds of young people and hindered their decision-making. The movement was all about rebellion against authority, including their parents and any social norms that made families and society strong.

We now have the most depressed generation. Instead of adults teaching children who they are as a male or female and helping them through the naturally uncomfortable transition of puberty into adulthood, children are left to figure out their identity on their own with no experience to guide them.

We label people primarily based on their sexuality. If that isn't a symptom of a sick society, I don't know what is. At least one in four adults in America have a sexual addiction. These sexually addicted adults are now trying to spread their own disease onto children. Children should not know who they prefer to have sex with. Children should not be experimenting with sex.

Public school is not the place to teach about sexuality, because it is not taught within the context of love, relationship, moral boundaries, religious convictions, and self-discipline. Parents love their children more than anyone and were involved in creating and raising them. Parents have a stake in their child’s future. While teachers come and go, parents will live with their children’s choices and consequences the rest of their lives.

The most important thing in a child’s life is consistency. And it is within the parents’ home that consistency is possible. Parents are the most appropriately equipped people to know when their child is emotionally ready to understand the concepts of sexuality and can share that within the context of family values and beliefs, including the importance of love, relationship, and marriage. They can speak into the home where their grandchildren will be raised. And it affects who their children will be bringing into their family.

The one who created sexuality for a special moment between only a husband and a wife also creates children out of love to be loved, and to know Him, who is love. It is within this context that sexual expression has meaning, purpose, and emotional closeness and connection. Even research shows sex within marriage is the best and most fulfilling sex. We also know it is the safest.

It's time we tell the truth and let the lies unravel.

You must abstain from sexual immorality; each of you must know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in lustful passion like the Gentiles who do not know God; and no one should ever violate or exploit his brother in this regard, because the Lord will avenge all such acts, as we have already told you and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us to impurity, but to holiness. Anyone, then, who rejects this command does not reject man but God, the very One who gives you His Holy Spirit. (1 Thes 4:3-8)

Therefore I urge you, brothers, on account of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God. (Romans 12:1-2)

Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who submit to or perform homosexual acts, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor verbal abusers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11)

“Everything is permissible for me,” but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me,” but I will not be mastered by anything. “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food,” but God will destroy them both. The body is not intended for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. By His power God raised the Lord from the dead, and He will raise us also.

Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Or don’t you know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with Him in spirit.

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a man can commit is outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God with your body. (1 Corinthians 6:12-20)